In this inspiring book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-improvement author Beverly Engel, you will learn why some people have difficulty apologizing while others tend to overapologize.
Author: Beverly Engel
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
"Fresh and useful . . . excellent practical advice . . . thorough and lucid . . . will be welcomed by many who have struggled to ask forgiveness and to forgive." -Publishers Weekly A finalist in the Books for a Better Life Awards competition! Discover the healing power of apology and put its magic to work in your life Do you have a difficult time apologizing or are you involved with someone who does? Do you tend to overapologize and appear weak in others' eyes? Do you want to reconcile with someone but feel they owe you an apology first? Do you need to apologize or make amends to someone but don't know how to go about it? In this inspiring book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-improvement author Beverly Engel, you will learn why some people have difficulty apologizing while others tend to overapologize. You'll learn how to give a meaningful apology, how to ask for one, and how to receive one. From making amends with those you have hurt to dealing with someone who refuses to apologize to teaching children responsibility and empathy, this life-changing book shows you how to bring a healing new element of renewal into every relationship in your life. "Beverly Engel has eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation." -Rabbi Charles A. Klein, author of How to Forgive When You Can't Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships "Readers of this wise and lucid guide to the neglected art of authentic apology will acquire a powerful tool to help repair relationships with others and with themselves." -Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., author of Forgiving and Not Forgiving: A New Approach to Resolving Intimate Betrayal "An engaging and in-depth book on a subject that has rarely been addressed so intelligently and thoroughly. Ms. Engel offers the reader specific suggestions that can help you improve all your relationships." -Steven Farmer, M.F.T., author of Adult Children of Abusive Parents
Some people see an apology as a confirmation of guilt and, as a result, of responsibility for the conflict. They mistakenly believe that if they apologize, then the other person wouldn't realize his or her own wrong behavior. This is false.
Author: Katty Allen
Ultimate Practical Ways of Enhancing Intimacy, Nurturing and Connecting Affectionately with Your Partner I'm sorry". Possibly two of the most powerful words in the English language. Yet, these words are often avoided and easily choked on! Why do we struggle to say these two simple words? "I'm sorry". Words so powerful it restores relationships. "I'm sorry" swings open the way to forgiveness and grace. "I'm sorry" releases the power of our mistake and grants freedom. We avoid these two powerful words because we don't look to the end result. Instead we look to the immediate future and tremble with fear. We grasp on to pride and point to the other person. Stubbornly, we cross our arms refusing to take responsibility. We say no to making a change and transforming. Saying nothing leads to increased hurt and hardened hearts. The lack of resolution builds like a losing game of Tetris. Remember that? The shapes just keep building until they climb so high there's no way out. It's never too late to say I'm sorry. It's also never too soon. The benefits of apologizing Apologizing is vital, since it helps to smooth any conflict and re-establish a spiritual connection with the partner. If you master the art of apologizing, it will help you reduce relationship stress and to move on from conflicts and tensions. When you apologize, you admit that you may be wrong, which is a threat to our ego and our pride. You should learn how to be objective and admit your mistakes, and not to allow your egocentrism to blind you. Some people see an apology as a confirmation of guilt and, as a result, of responsibility for the conflict. They mistakenly believe that if they apologize, then the other person wouldn't realize his or her own wrong behavior. This is false. Apologizing in fact opens the lines of communication, and stimulates empathy and understanding on both sides.
In Why Won't You Apologize? Lerner challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind and helps those who have been injured to resist pressure to forgive too easily.
Author: Harriet Lerner
Publisher: Prelude Books
Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language, "I'm sorry," and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken relationships and restoring trust. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies for more than two decades, namely, why some people won't give them. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that demonstrates the transformative power of making amends and what is required for healing when the damage we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a meaningful apology and avoid signals of insincerity that only deepen suffering. In Why Won't You Apologize? Lerner challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind and helps those who have been injured to resist pressure to forgive too easily. She explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, and why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own their misdeeds. With her trademark humour and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.
But simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough. In this book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas unveil new ways to effectively approach and mend fractured relationships.
Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Moody Publishers
Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman has teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it's not just a matter of will--it's a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships. The authors detail proven techniques for giving and receiving effective apologies.
... Healing the wounds of infidelity through the healing power of apology and ... Relationship orientation as a moderator of the effects of social power.
Author: Peter Randall
Can feeling genuinely sorry enable an important healing experience? Can relieving the weight of guilt restore a general sense of self-worth? Can an individual's dawning awareness give birth to feelings of remorse; perhaps even to acts of repentance? The concepts of betrayal, vengeance and forgiveness have long been a major part of religious doctrine throughout the world. However, only in recent times has the impact of these emotions become of interest to those involved in psychological study. In The Psychology of Feeling Sorry, Peter Randall links contemporary psychological research with religious teachings and doctrine that have provided spiritual guidance for hundreds of years. Illustrated with explanatory narratives, Randall fuses religious precepts with psychological theory concerning one of the least understood but most common of human emotions; feeling bad about one's 'sins'. Using an eclectic approach Randall explores how much of what is believed within the domain of faith is now supported by modern psychological research. This book will be of interest not only to those with religious beliefs, but to psychologists, psychotherapists, students, and anyone with an interest in the intersection of psychology, psychotherapy, and theology.
Said at the right time, in the right way, its healing powers can be nothing ... Sorry—it can repair a fatherson or mother daughter relationship in lifelong ...
Author: Martha Bolton
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Part of the new Exclamation series, this book proves that laughter is truly the best medicine. Full of humor and hope, Ouch! contains stories and quotes that are like Band-Aids for the soul. It soothes the rough spots on the bumpy road of life and gives expression to the exclamations of life!
A Dialogue on Love, Marriage and Family Life in the Light of Pope Francis' Logic ... experience the much needed healing power GROWING IN INDISSOLUBLE LOVE 153.
Author: Johan Bonny
Five years since the apostolic exhortation on love in the family – Amoris Laetitia – first appeared, it has lost none of its relevance and urgency. For Pope Francis this anniversary offers “an opportunity to focus more closely on the contents of the document”. In an open and frank dialogue, the authors of this book accept the challenge to explore and develop insights and paths for theological ethics, pastoral theology and ministry, counseling, education and spirituality as drawn out in the exhortation. They focus particularly on the conjugal covenant as a “unique love of friendship” and as the basis for family life, one where the upbringing of children is geared to “growing in love”. From this perspective, topics such as responsible parenthood, indissolubility, separation and divorce receive rightful consideration. Other intimate relationships and modes of living together are discussed critically and qualitatively. Inspired by the “logic of mercy and discernment” in Amoris Laetitia, stepping stones for a pastoral ethics of growth towards “enduring love”, that do not circumvent the differences with marriage, are laid down. This book arose out of numerous and extensive conversations between bishop Johan Bonny, professor Roger Burggraeve SDB and journalist Ilse Van Halst. Sprung out of dialogue, it desires to continue the dialogue and process of discernment. It invites to participate all who are involved in theological ethics and pastoral theology, sexuality and family studies, religious education and youth catechesis, marriage and family life ministry, couple therapy, training programs for parents on love and sex education, support groups for separated and divorced… and all those in Church and society looking for sustainable love.
The magical healing power of saying “I'm sorry” can heal years of damage in a relationship. I never witnessed my parents apologizing to one another.
Author: Karen K.C. Gibson
Publisher: Balboa Press
Category: Family & Relationships
These simple but powerful parenting tips range from coping with distance learning challenges to teaching children to become independent problem-solvers prepared for their journey as an adult. Gibson explains how to express emotions effectively without suffering from mental meltdowns. Discovering and practicing primary love languages may prevent conflicts while nurturing strong connections. Learning how to raise your child’s EQ can make the difference between parents who suffer emotional exhaustion to parents who enjoy the benefits of practicing positive parenting tips.
Michael Woods walks health care providers through the Five "R's" of Apology: Recognition; Regret; Responsibility; Remedy and Remain Engaged.
Author: Michael S. Woods
Publisher: Doctors In Touch
Category: Health & Fitness
One doctor speaking to other doctors and health care providers about how to provide the best possible care for patients--by actually caring about patients. These powerful laminated cards helps health care providers understand and practice what to do after unexpected outcomes--to apologize. Michael Woods walks health care providers through the Five "R's" of Apology: Recognition; Regret; Responsibility; Remedy and Remain Engaged.
Author: Vincent Ryan RuggieroPublish On: 2014-01-01
Few expressions have the healing power of “I'm sorry.” These words have been known to eradicate generations of animosity and resentment and restore ...
Author: Vincent Ryan Ruggiero
Publisher: Cengage Learning
Success depends on the ability to think critically. Training and practice turn this ability into a powerful skill. BECOMING A CRITICAL THINKER gives you the opportunity to develop this skill in a classroom environment while stressing its application to daily life. You'll learn to solve everyday problems, maintain successful relationships, make career choices, and interpret the messages of advertising in a variety of media. Exercises throughout the text encourage you to practice what you read and to apply it to your own life. BECOMING A CRITICAL THINKER breaks up critical thinking into a series of cumulative activities, a unique approach that has made this text a staple of many critical thinking courses. Important Notice: Media content referenced within the product description or the product text may not be available in the ebook version.
Despite its healing power, a true apology is a rare commodity these days. ... learn early to nurture friendships and be the caretakers of relationships.
Author: Dr. Jane Greer
Publisher: Main Street Books
At one time or another we have all been betrayed by someone we trusted, all felt the sting of deceit and subsequent shattering of self-confidence. And when the people we count on betray our trust, the wound is deep and long-lasting. In How Could You Do This to Me?, Dr. Jane Greer teaches readers:the types of people who are more at risk of betrayal the warning signs of someone who is untrustworthy a process that helps decide whether a relationship is worth saving or whether it should be abandoned.Part One discusses the roots of trust, blind trust, and the reasons betrayers betray. Part Two reveals our betrayers' many faces: admirers, users, or rivals. Part Three focuses on the fallout from betrayal: confrontation, revenge, and betrayal, and talks about how you can learn to trust your judgment and others again.
healing with my mother and positioned me to shave off the emotional and ... book The Power of Apology: Healing Steps to Transform All Your Relationships, ...
Author: Dorothy Breininger
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
While organizing the lives of her many clients, Emmy-nominated organizing expert Dorothy Breininger learned to face her own stuff, and lost seventy-five pounds in the process. In this one-of-a-kind book she addresses weight loss from the much-needed perspective of what lies underneath our clutter—metaphorically, physically, and emotionally. Whether you're a packrat or a calorie-counter, a neat freak or a binge eater, Breininger reveals why, to be successful on the scale, you must first master the clutter within you and around you. With the same no-holds barred candor that resonates with TV viewers, she offers prescient advice to help anyone face their stuff, with an organized, step-by-step approach to either toss it, tame it, or tailor it to fit their lives. Filled with personal stories from clients, her own success story, and tips from fitness coaches and organizing experts, this imminently practical book gives everyone the tools to declutter their way to their dream size.
important thing you can do to begin healing a damaged relationship. An apologyacknowledges that something has happened that could threaten the relationship.
Author: Leonard Greenhalgh
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Category: Business & Economics
Contrary to the gospel of a century of management thinkers, the primary job of the manager is no longer to plan, organize, direct, or control, asserts management expert Leonard Greenhalgh. Instead, he argues, today's successful managers are primarily negotiators who are judged on their ability to foster, coach, protect, and support collaborative relationships -- and manage conflict -- with peers, workers, bosses, suppliers, customers, regulators, competitors, and stakeholders. In one of the most comprehensive analyses of business relationships ever written, Greenhalgh shows how relationships -- not technology or "know-how" -- are the foundation of the new extended enterprise. In immensely readable prose, he describes how companies have moved beyond adversarial relationships of command-and-control hierarchies to a new communal world in which internal networks of autonomous professionals and external networks of collaborating organizations compete against rival networks. In order to manage, managers must acquire a whole new set of negotiating skills, he argues. Traditional negotiating techniques promoted winning and self-interest, leaving a wake of bitterness and acrimony. Here Greenhalgh introduces for the first time a brilliant concept he calls "Commonwealth," which promotes ongoing relationships and the common interest. Using scores of detailed case studies and examples, he offers a set of cutting-edge tools managers can apply immediately to repair and improve relationships between people at all levels of responsibility, between groups, between organizations themselves, and between personalities involving gender differences. Timely, stimulating, and powerful, Managing Strategic Relationships is essential reading for every manager who hopes to succeed in the organization of today.
The original action damaged the relational safety and sense of goodwill important for a healthy relationship. The sincere apology acknowledges the error and ...
Author: J. Harold Ellens
Category: Body, Mind & Spirit
This three-volume set addresses how the role of spirituality and its constructive expressions in various religions—and outside of formal religion—enhances human personality and experience. • 55 distinguished contributors, representing numerous religious traditions, research disciplines, and psychospiritual perspectives, from North America, Latin America, Africa, Asia, and Europe • Graphic illustrations of brain functions under varied conditions with various electrical and chemical stimuli, as well as a graphic depiction of personal narrative material
Intentions: Repair relationship with lender. • Apology: Say I am sorry and pay back the money I was loaned. PAYING ATTENTION Paying Attention on a regular ...
Author: Susan Borkin
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
The healing benefits of writing can support traditional therapy. While much has been written about the physical and emotional benefits of writing, little has been written specifically for mental health professionals detailing how to use therapeutic journaling with their clients. Therapeutic journaling—any type of writing or related expressive process used for the purpose of psychological healing or growth—can be an extremely helpful adjunctive therapy. When integrated into an overall treatment plan, regardless of the therapist’s clinical orientation, journaling can become a dynamic tool for personal growth and healing. The first part of this book, “Journaling and the Clinical Process,” gives an overview of therapeutic journaling and the many potential benefits from its use. It provides concrete and specific steps for introducing journaling to psychotherapy clients and answers questions about structure and logistics. For example, engaging your client in writing a biographical statement will not only help focus the treatment plan but also provide a vast amount of background information. This section also introduces two very beneficial mnemonic devices to help clients focus and organize journaling between sessions. The next section, “Presenting Problems and Journaling Solutions,” addresses nine different diagnoses and explains specifically how therapeutic journaling can be integrated into the treatment plan of these diagnoses. Key diagnoses are covered: adjustment disorders, anxiety, depression, grief, low self-esteem, couple and relationship issues, addictions, disordered eating, and post-traumatic stress disorder. The final part of the book, “Journaling Roadblocks and Building Blocks,” addresses potentially difficult, sticky, or challenging situations regarding journaling, such as possible resistance to therapeutic journaling, privacy issues, safe boundaries, and protection of client material. Importantly, it also reviews those circumstances in which it is best not to use therapeutic journaling or when journaling is contraindicated. The author offers a program designed for therapists for creating their own therapeutic journaling practice. The Healing Power of Writing is filled with case studies, step-by-step exercises, and clear and practical guidelines for mental health professionals who want to incorporate journaling into their clients’ treatment.
For the most part, the healing power of a sincere apology is immediate, according to psychologist ... and apologize can lead to the loss of a relationship.
Author: Terry Gaspard
Publisher: Sounds True
Category: Family & Relationships
The 10 Keys to a Successful Remarriage Based on the author’s personal experience, over 30 years of clinical practice, knowledge from leading marriage and remarriage researchers, and 100 in-depth interviews of remarried people, The Remarriage Manual offers 10 essential keys to a successful remarriage: Build a Culture of Appreciation, Respect, and Tolerance. Negativity is toxic. Personal growth and love are possible when you can express appreciation through positive words and actions. Make Your Remarriage a Top Priority. Never underestimate the power of intentional time with your partner to increase physical and emotional intimacy. Ditch the Baggage from Your First Marriage. Learn ways to be more reflective and less reactive to triggers that hit raw spots or vulnerabilities stemming from prior relationships. Don’t Keep Secrets about Money. Remarried couples face complicated financial issues such as unequal assets, child support, alimony, and education costs for children and stepchildren. Honesty and full disclosure about finances are essential. Don’t Let Mistrust Stop You from Being Vulnerable and Emotionally Intimate. Learn that vulnerability and trust go hand in hand and the steps you can take to be authentic and intimate with your partner so you can achieve long-lasting love. Get Sexy and Fall in Love All Over Again. Given the stressors of a second marriage, it can be particularly challenging to stay sexually intimate. Yet moments of connection, such as touching, talking, or making love, are all part of the glue that holds a second marriage together. Don’t Make a Big Deal about Nothing . . . but Do Deal with Important Issues. Differences in beliefs, expectations, and conversational styles can cause you to blow things out of proportion and tune each other out. Effective communication will help you overcome these types of misunderstandings. Manage the Flames of Conflict. You can’t avoid disagreements entirely. What you can do, however, is learn how to manage them successfully to avoid the “blame game” so that they can nourish rather than drain your remarriage. Embrace Your Role as a Stepparent and Create Positive Stepfamily Memories. There is no such thing as instant love in a stepfamily. When biological parents are involved, the relationships can get even trickier. Learn to adjust to your role as a stepparent—the chances of a second marriage succeeding go way up when both partners adopt an attitude of “we’re in this together.” Say You’re Sorry and Mean It. Studies show that apologizing to your partner for hurting their feelings and granting forgiveness are crucial to the success of a second marriage. It’s essential that remarried couples learn the value of sincere apologies and forgiveness. Drawing on the experiences of dozens of couples and remarriage scenarios, Terry Gaspard shows you how to bring each key home and set up your relationship for lasting success. Whether you are thinking of remarrying and concerned about going the distance or are already remarried and struggling, The Remarriage Manual provides the expert advice, practical tools, hope, and inspiration you need to prevent challenges from becoming deal breakers. The 10 keys provided here will help put you and your spouse on solid footing; keep the flame between you burning bright; and build a deeply trusting, loving, and sustainable connection for the long haul.
She stated, “Apology has the power to heal individuals, couples, and families. Almost like magic, apology can mend our relationships, soothe our wounds and ...
Author: Jimmie Clay
Everyday somebody is offering an apology for something he/she did or said that may have offended somebody else or a certain group. From the beginning to the end of this book authentic examples are given where a person offended or harmed another and followed up the action by either making a genuine apology, made a blunder or failed to offer one at all. The examples typify the advent of apologies and apologizing in our society today, especially from those we call celebrities and those who we look to for good character. It has been observed that over the past several years, we have seen and heard many public acts of contrition from movie and sports stars to religious leaders, politicians and common people. Some of the expressions that are called apologies have been sincere and were presented in a genuine manner. On the other hand, some of the gestures made the situations worse and diminished the act altogether. A genuine apology is defined as a gesture that expresses one regret over an offense, fault, or accident caused to another. The gesture includes an admission that harm was caused to the other person or group and a sincere promise that the act will not happen again. As a means to illustrate how a genuine apology can be presented to an offended person or group, six cases are revisited, and rewritten in different statements to make the gestures more authentic. Obviously, there are different views on apologizing for harm caused to others. Several distinguished individuals were interviewed to ascertain their perceptions on apology and apologizing for harm caused to another person or group.
But the apology never comes because the other person is also waiting for it. ... Forgiveness has the power to heal not only the relationship but also the ...
Author: Hal Urban
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Although we live in an ocean of words, we rarely acknowledge their power to uplift or put down, to inspire or discourage, to help or hurt. But in this jewel of a book, Hal Urban -- parent, award-winning teacher, and author of the classic Life's Greatest Lessons -- shows us simple and immediate ways that we can use language to change lives -- both our own and those around us.
Passive- Aggressive/Hostile-Dependent Relationships If Barry continued to act in ... no explanation or apology you would be likely to feel the injury and ...
Author: John R. Rifkin
Publisher: Cosimo, Inc.
Conventional wisdom views anger as red-hot yelling and screaming, a force to be feared and repressed. But psychotherapist John Rifkin views anger in a revolutionary way -- as the natural energy created to heal one's emotional injuries. In "The Healing Power of Anger," Rifkin explains how to identify dysfunctional uses of anger so that readers can "unbend" it and become empowered and self-nurturing. To do so, he explains his Stop, Drop, and Roll system, which he's used with clients for more than 20 years. In addition, Rifkin explores the childhood roots of anger, the spectrum of angry behavior, how anger can be a gift to a relationship, and ice-cold passive-aggressive anger.
An Interview Study on Relationship Changes in Workplace Mediation Timea Tallodi ... an apology and, as Lazare (1995) frames it, apology has healing power.
Author: Timea Tallodi
Publisher: Springer Nature
This book presents an unprecedented qualitative research study on relational changes in mediation with a truly interdisciplinary outset, drawing on the literature on psychology, alternative dispute resolution and business. Mediation's potential to induce changes in parties' relationships as an advantage of the process is commonly mentioned in the literature. However, despite its being a key to reconciliation, relational changes in mediation has not yet been a topic of foundational and fine-grained qualitative enquiry. As the first study in the literature, this research uses in-depth interviews with mediation parties and the qualitative methodology of interpretative phenomenological analysis in order to explore participants' lived experiences. The phenomenological stance ensures a particularly rich data set and a nuanced interpretative analysis. This pioneering piece of research seeks to enter mediation parties' true experiences as closely as possible, moving beyond pre-existing theoretical, quantitative and large-scale qualitative explorations. The themes are discussed in the context of theory, research and practice. Therefore, this book advances knowledge about mediation both in theoretical and practical terms. Innovative conclusions and recommendations are provided for developing mediation practice, mediation training programmes, and further research.