Challenging conventional wisdom on grief, a pioneering therapist offers a new resource for those experiencing loss When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with ...
Author: Megan Devine
Publisher: Sounds True
Challenging conventional wisdom on grief, a pioneering therapist offers a new resource for those experiencing loss When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. “Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form,” says Megan Devine. “It is a natural and sane response to loss.” So, why does our culture treat grief like a disease to be cured as quickly as possible? In It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides—as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner—Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you’ll learn: • Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief • How challenging the myths of grief—doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold—allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve • Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to “fix” your pain • How to help the people you love—with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to “solve” grief. Megan writes, “Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution.” Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face—in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better.
Megan Devine, founder of Refuge in Grief and author of It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand, joined me on Episode 41 of Coming Back (www.shelbyforsythia.com/podcast/41) to talk about ...
Author: Shelby Forsythia
Publisher: Shelby Forsythia, LLC
The voice behind the popular grief podcast Coming Back: Conversations on Life After Loss puts pen to paper in her first book to create a powerful permission slip for anyone facing the devastating heartbreak that comes with death, divorce, diagnosis, and so much more. When loss steamrolls through, there’s a lot of hidden and not-so-hidden “rules” about the way you’re “supposed” to grieve: “You should be over it after a year.” “Put on a brave face.” “Keep your grief at home.” Permission to Grieve calls out society’s garbage rules for what they really are: toxic and repressive narratives that insist we abandon our true selves in the face of grief. Shelby asks instead: - What if we allowed grief the freedom to influence our emotions? - What if we allowed grief the power to alter our identities at home, school, and work? - What if we allowed grief to show up in the physical world through art, memorial, and ritual? - What if we gave ourselves… Permission to Grieve? Drawing on her experience as a grieving person and two years’ worth of interviews with grief experts like Megan Devine, Kerry Egan, and Caleb Wilde, Shelby Forsythia makes the case for radical, self-honoring permission—free from personal judgement and society’s restrictive timelines and rules. Permission to Grieve guides you to call your grief out of hiding and invites you to give it permission through thoughtful writing prompts, easy-to-follow exercises, and clever visual illustrations. In this book you’ll learn: - How society encourages us to practice life-rejection and self-abandonment instead of expressing our grief - The three big permissions that unlock the emotions, identities, and actions our grief wants to express—featuring insights from -podcast guests and Shelby Forsythia’s personal grief community - Tips and tricks for practicing permission to grieve in the real world—including how to ask for permission to grieve from friends, family, and coworkers and tools for helping others tap into their own permission to grieve Permission to Grieve is not a hall pass from a higher authority; it’s a personal practice that is strengthened with self-awareness, attention, and love. You don’t have to wait to receive permission to grieve; you already have it. Permission to Grieve is a book for people who are tired of covering up and pushing down their pain. It’s a book for people who know that there’s a better, more compassionate way to approach the worst thing that has ever happened to them. It’s a book for people who believe that grief is not an enemy to be vanquished as quickly as possible, but an opportunity to connect more deeply with their human selves. Because even in the midst of loss, Shelby writes, we can create grace, space, and room to breathe.
Her book title perfectly explains her approach to this conversation, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand. Devine has made a significant contribution to our understanding of this subject ...
Author: Niamh Fitzpatrick
Publisher: Gill & Macmillan Ltd
Category: Biography & Autobiography
In March 2017, Niamh Fitzpatrick’s life fell apart overnight. Her beloved sister Dara was killed in a helicopter crash. Soon afterwards, Niamh’s marriage disintegrated, and she feared she would lose her house. Life as she knew it had ended and the loss she suffered was staggering. A psychologist for many years, Niamh’s job was to guide clients through the worst times in their lives. Drawing on everything she learned, first to survive and then, in time, to begin to thrive, Tell Me the Truth about Loss is a psychologist’s journey through loss, grief and the worst of times, while finding hope along the way. A beautiful book for when life isn’t what you expect it to be.
MEGAN DEVINE teacher, speaker, psychotherapist, and author of It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand “O'Malley validates my experience of ministering for forty-five years to grieving ...
Author: Patrick O’Malley
Publisher: Sounds True
When the New York Times ran Patrick O’Malley’s story about the loss of his infant son—and how his inability to “move on” challenged everything he was taught as a psychotherapist—it inspired an unprecedented flood of gratitude from readers. What he shared was a truth that many have felt but rarely acknowledged by the professionals they turn to: that our grief is not a mental illness to be cured, but part of the abiding connection with the one we’ve lost. Illuminated by O’Malley’s own story and those of many clients that he’s supported, readers learn how the familiar “stages of grief” too often mislabel our sorrow as a disorder, press us to “get over it,” and amplify our suffering with shame and guilt when we do not achieve “closure” in due course. “Sadness, regret, confusion, yearning—all the experiences of grief—are a part of the narrative of love,” reflects O’Malley. Here, with uncommon sensitivity and support, he invites us to explore grief not as a process of recovery, but as the ongoing narrative of our relationship with the one we’ve lost—to be fully felt, told, and woven into our lives. For those in bereavement and anyone supporting those who are, Getting Grief Right offers an uncommonly empathetic guide to opening to our sorrow as the full expression of our love.
AFTER THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE It's Ok That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss In A Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine This book is more specically geared to losing someone in a sudden and unexpected way.
Author: Dr. Faith G. Harper
Publisher: Microcosm Publishing
When we lose someone or something close to us—a loved person or animal, a relationship, our health, our dream, our idea of who we are—it hurts. A lot. Grief is both what we experience and how we heal. Dr. Faith Harper, bestselling author of books like Unfuck Your Brain and Unfuck Your Boundaries brings us a counseling and neuroscience perspective on grieving. She explains what is actually happening in our brains and bodies and what we need in order to allow it to happen fully. She also shows us how to identify and treat traumatic grief, the variety of grieving processes we experience, what grief looks like in the long term, when to get professional support, and how to ask the people in our lives for what we need (and to give ourselves the care we need as well). You'll also find solid advice on how (and how not!) to support a grieving person in your life. Wise, a little crass, and gently funny.
to "I Am Enough" by Brené Brown It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine Letters to a Young Therapist by Mary Pipher On Being a Therapist (Fifth Edition) by Jeffrey A.
Author: Jo Eckler
Publisher: Spiral Staircase Publishing
Have you gone from feeling like you were finally following your true calling as a helper and healer to dragging yourself out of bed? Where did all the excitement, wonder, and gratitude go? You’re exhausted physically and emotionally from juggling challenging clients and the mundane side of helping work. You might even have daydreamed about quitting. Or perhaps you’re new to helping and not sure how to navigate client relationships, run your practice, and somehow still have a life. Whether you’re an acupuncturist, massage therapist, yoga teacher, Reiki healer, coach, astrologer, or counselor, this book is your companion. Discover simple, effective techniques to: · Soothe burnout and relieve compassion fatigue · Enhance your own resilience · Break free from impostor syndrome · Feel empowered to maintain healthier boundaries · Customize your career to meet your needs · Plus, find out what you don’t know about change—this information can take you from frustrated to fulfilled Dr. Jo Eckler is a licensed clinical psychologist and registered yoga teacher trained in energy work, sound healing, and as a death & mourning doula. You’ll benefit from their 20 years of professional experience as a helper working directly with clients, supervising trainees, leading workshops, and consulting. It’s time to go beyond self-care clichés and get the practical tools you need to share your gifts with others while keeping yourself nourished in the process. Start crafting a more sustainable future today.
... Theresa Caputo Grief is the Thing with Feathers by Max Porter Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death, and Surviving by Julia Samuel It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine ...
Author: Shelley F. Knight
Publisher: John Hunt Publishing
An inspiring companion for your journey through grief. Grief is closely associated with death, but can be triggered when we lose anything with which we have an emotional connection. Much that can be read about the grieving process is outdated and can serve an injustice to our rapidly evolving, modern society. In conjunction with recent medical and societal advancements, new and complex presentations of grief have arisen. As a result, our own journey through grief must also evolve in order for us to effectively heal and even flourish as a result of our experiences surrounding loss. Delivering an eclectic blend of medical and spiritual observations and teachings, Good Grief: The A to Z Approach of Modern Day Grief Healing addresses life as well as death, and provides a practical guidebook for your unique grief journey. It goes beyond the conventional views that we are just a physical body, aiming to enlighten and encourage the reader to use the tools within the pages to bring about a collateral beauty that reveals great strength, personal growth, and spiritual emergence.
First things first: To live, to love, to learn, to leave a legacy. New York, NY: Simon & Schuster. Devine, M. (2017). It's OK that you're not OK: Meeting grief and loss in a culture that doesn't understand. Boulder, Co: Sounds True.
Author: Hilda R. Glazer
Publisher: Charles C Thomas Publisher
The death of a loved one is a traumatic event for both adults and children. Grieving has no rules, no prescribed course, or expiration date. After a death, the feelings and experiences that follow can be extremely overwhelming and confusing. The authors of this book create a supportive environment that normalizes the phases of grief through clinical expertise, including a lifespan approach that indicates grief is certainly a journey from which none of us ever escapes nor perhaps reaches closure. This is an important work that addresses the spiritual, emotional, psychological, and physical aspects of a person’s grief. Specific topics include: the physical aspects of grief; anticipatory grief; grief through a child’s eyes; understanding grief and spirituality; counseling the bereaved adult; adult grief support groups; death in a military family; counseling grieving children and traumatic loss; messages of mourning; using art to facilitate a child’s expression of grief; and the importance of self-care. In addition, numerous case examples describing real-life experiences are discussed, helping to enhance coping and encourage healing. The text is further enhanced by an appendix containing a wealth of information that includes sample group activities. This book will be a significant resource for mental health professionals, grief counselors, human service providers, social workers, clergy, nurses, and lay volunteers.
Devine, Megan: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand — In 2009 Megan Devine saw her partner Matt accidentally drown before her eyes; her book is a lengthy and compassionate — although ...
Author: Steven Payne
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
Category: Biography & Autobiography
Rhona sometimes used to say to me that, meeting me as she did when I was only twenty-five, she had had the best years of my life. Truer word was never spoken. While she (to my life-long shame, remorse and regret) unquestionably had some of the worst of me, I like to think, I hope, that she also had — such as it is — all of the best of me. I was twenty-five when we met and forty-six when she died. That’s a hefty chunk of an important period of anybody’s life and Rhona had it. For all its lows as well as highs, the downs as well as the ups — what else can you expect for two people together almost all the time for twenty-one years? — what Rhona and I had, what we created, was a life. And she was, whatever anybody else says or thinks, despite my grievous mistakes, the centre of mine. There are no perfect people in this world but sometimes — just sometimes — two people can be perfect for each other.
The Last Dance: Encountering Death and Dying. 7th ed. New York: McGraw Hill, 2005. Devine, Megan, and Mark Nepo. It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand. Boulder, CO: Sounds True, 2017.
Author: Quentin P. Kinnison
Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers
The inevitability of death in our broken world means that grief and mourning are a normal part of the human experience. Too often, though, this normal journey of grief is cut short by a culture intent on pretending bad things don't really happen. In A Road Too Short for the Long Journey, readers are invited to consider how we might travel this road of mourning with those who grieve and how we might join them as partners in a reorientation of the world experienced through loss.