2 Josefsson, D. & Linge, E., Hemligheten. Från ögonkast till varaktig relation (Natur & Kultur, 2008). 3 Levine, A., Heller, R. S. F., Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find and keep love (New York: ...
Author: Dr Angela Ahola
Publisher: Pan Macmillan
Category: Family & Relationships
Searching for a fresh approach to dating? Look no further . . . Modern dating is a numbers game, with limitless options only ever a swipe away. But whether you're looking for something casual or searching for true romance, sifting through countless profiles only to endure a dreadful date can be exhausting. How do you stand out from the crowd and find the person you're looking for? Enter Psychologist Dr Angela Ahola. When she found herself single again after a long relationship, Angela decided to throw herself headlong into the unfamiliar world of online dating. Armed with her expertise in studying human behaviour, she embarked on an experiment with herself as the test subject: she went on one hundred different dates to learn as much as she could about what makes a successful encounter - and what doesn't. Backed up by the latest science on personality, relationships and dating, 100 Dates is the ultimate dating handbook. Including advice on everything from figuring out why you want to date through to setting up your profile and finding the right person, Dr Angela is the perfect guide through the thorny wilderness of dating.
2 (2011): 34–39, 52–53. 7 Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love (New York: Tarcher/Penguin, 2010). 8 Mary Sykes Wylie and Lynn Turner, “The Attuned ...
Author: Donna Eden
Category: Body, Mind & Spirit
The bestselling authors of Energy Medicine and Energy Medicine for Women present a complete program for using energy medicine to heal and strengthen romantic relationships. A relationship begins with the meeting of two unique energies. This union of energies, though invisible, determines the way you communicate, fight, love, and want to be loved. In this groundbreaking book, the bestselling authors of Energy Medicine draw on the real-life experiences of couples who have attended their popular “Energies of Love” workshops, as well as their own experience as husband and wife, to show how an understanding of your energy system and that of your partner can help you build a more harmonious and loving bond. We all have different ways of making sense of the world around us, but when faced with conflict, especially with those we care most about, we tend to revert to one of four “Energetic Stress Styles”: - Visuals are extremely passionate and inspire others to care about the things they care about, but in moments of conflict, their take on the situation can overshadow what is actually occurring, undermining their ability to empathize with their partner. - Kinesthetics are generous, compassionate, and accepting of other people, but their caring nature pulls them in too many directions. They try to meet others’ needs at the expense of their own, which can cause mounting resentment. - Digitals are rational and principled and have a gift for quickly understanding complex situations, but they can become closed to others’ perspectives and feelings. - Tonals have a gift for understanding others and their dilemmas, but during moments of conflict, their ability to read between the lines can morph into hearing what was never said, felt, or thought. According to the authors, the strongest relationships are those in which the two parties feel that they are partners on a shared spiritual journey. By helping you better understand your own unique energy system, as well as that of your partner, you will be able to recognize your strengths as a couple-¬and avoid the pitfalls. The Energies of Love serves as a powerful resource for anyone who wishes to build a rich partnership while maintaining the spark that keeps a relationship exciting.
The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love Amir Levine, Rachel Heller. tp tarcherperigee an imprint of Penguin Random House LLC penguinrandomhouse.com First trade paperback edition 2011 Copyright ...
Author: Amir Levine
Category: Family & Relationships
Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now. Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes. In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: *ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. *AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. *SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. It also offers readers a wealth of advice on how to navigate their relationships more wisely given their attachment style and that of their partner. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.
3 1 2 3 Chapter 3: The Anxious-Avoidant Dance and More The terror surging through our system: Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love (New York: ...
Author: Jessica Baum
Publisher: Random House
Category: Family & Relationships
Do you constantly talk with your friends about your partner and your relationship? If your partner doesn't answer a text quickly, do you become anxious? Or do you check up on your partner online to know about their every move? If so, you might identify with having an anxious attachment style and find yourself more prone to insecurity, jealousy and co-dependency. But there is plenty you can do to feel stronger and more secure within yourself and improve the quality of your relationships. In Anxiously Attached, expert psychotherapist and couples' counsellor Jessica Baum shares the groundbreaking research and practical tools you need to understand your core attachment patterns and form healthier and more fulfilling relationships. In this book you will learn how to: - Create boundaries to safeguard your sense of self in relationships - Communicate to your partners what you need to feel safe and secure in the relationship - Develop a secure sense of self-worth and emotional stability
Chapter Three: Ambivalent Attachment 1. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — and Keep — Love (New York: TarcherPerigee, 2012), 177–182. 2.
Author: Diane Poole Heller
Publisher: Sounds True
How traumatic events can break our vital connections—and how to restore love, wholeness, and resiliency in your life From our earliest years, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our daily emotional landscape, our relationships, and how we feel about ourselves. And in the wake of a traumatic event—such as a car accident, severe illness, loss of a loved one, or experience of abuse—that attachment style can deeply influence what happens next. In The Power of Attachment, Dr. Diane Poole Heller, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution, shows how overwhelming experiences can disrupt our most important connections— with the parts of ourselves within, with the physical world around us, and with others. The good news is that we can restore and reconnect at all levels, regardless of our past. Here, you’ll learn key insights and practices to help you: • Restore the broken connections caused by trauma • Get embodied and grounded in your body • Integrate the parts of yourself that feel wounded and fragmented • Emerge from grief, fear, and powerlessness to regain strength, joy, and resiliency • Reclaim access to your inner resources and spiritual nature “We are fundamentally designed to heal,” teaches Dr. Heller. “Even if our childhood is less than ideal, our secure attachment system is biologically programmed in us, and our job is to simply find out what’s interfering with it—and learn what we can do to make those secure tendencies more dominant.” With expertise drawn from Dr. Heller’s research, clinical work, and training programs, this book invites you to begin that journey back to wholeness.
Chapter 2 1. Two excellent resources on attachment are Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love (New York: TarcherPerigee, 2012); and Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love: How ...
Author: Melanie Joy
Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers
Category: Family & Relationships
The award-winning author helps you build relational literacy by giving you the principles and tools to understand and practice healthy ways of relating. Relationships are complicated. Yet it’s an unfortunate reality that while most of us have to learn complex geometry that we’ll probably never use, we don’t get a single formal lesson in how to relate to others. In this comprehensive guidebook, Joy reveals the common psychological dynamics that underlie all kinds of relationships: with a romantic partner, friends, family members, colleagues—in short, with anyone in any situation. Understanding these dynamics can enable you to make all your relationships healthier and more resilient, and help you contribute to creating a better world. Drawing on the most relevant research as well as on her own extensive experience as a psychologist, Joy explains how to strengthen your “relational immune system” to resist not only interpersonal stressors but also largely invisible yet potentially devastating societal stressors like racism and sexism. With this understanding, you can cultivate relationships that consistently reflect core moral values and honor the dignity of everyone involved. Resilient relationships are a source of joy and fulfillment for those who are in them—and they also support the thriving of the organizations and communities of which we all are a part. “A wise, practical, and well-researched template for creating healthy relationships of any kind . . . I recommend this book to anyone wishing to expand their social-emotional intelligence!” —Susan Campbell, PhD, author of Five-Minute Relationship Repair
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Author: Alexander Cooper
Summary of Attached - The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love - A Comprehensive Summary The New Science of Adult Attachment 1. Decoding Relationship Behavior While working in Columbia University’s Therapeutic Nursery helping mothers bond more closely with their children, Amir Levine, M.D. made an astounding discovery: the bonds adults have with their adult romantic partners mirrors the attachment bonds babies have with their mothers. This meant that attachment theory, which describes how babies and children display attachment to their mothers, is not just for children. Attachment theory continues to explain behavior toward others into adulthood. Attachment theory describes three “attachment styles” that explain how children respond to bonding with their mothers and (in adults) how people respond to closeness and bonding in romantic relationships. These three categories are: ● Anxious ● Avoidant ● Secure Those in each of these three categories differ in how they view intimacy, conflict, sex, communication, and relationship expectations. Everyone’s relationship behavior can be explained by each of these categories, which means we are all programmed with these three styles, with 50 percent of the population being secure, 20... To be continued... Here is a Preview of What You Will Get: ⁃ A Full Book Summary ⁃ An Analysis ⁃ Fun quizzes ⁃ Quiz Answers ⁃ Etc. Get a copy of this summary and learn about the book.
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Author: Krispin Mayfield
Why does God feel so far away? The reason--and the solution--is in your attachment style. We all experience moments when God's love and presence are tangible. But we also experience feeling utterly abandoned by God. Why? The answer is found when you take a deep look at the other important relationships in your life and understand your attachment style. Through his years working in trauma recovery programs, extensive research into attachment science, and personal experiences with spiritual striving and abuse, licensed therapist Krispin Mayfield has learned to answer the question: Why do I feel so far from God? When you understand your attachment style you gain a whole new paradigm for a secure and loving relationship with God. You'll gain insights about: How you relate to others--both your strengths and weaknesses The practical exercises you can use to grow a secure spiritual attachment to God How to move forward on the spirituality spectrum and experience the Divine connection we all were created for You'll learn to identify and remove mixed messages about closeness with God that you may have heard in church or from well-meaning Christians. With freedom from the past, you can then chart a new path toward intimate connection with the God of the universe.
... Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love. We'll look at love avoidants more closely in chapter 2, but the following is a short summary of love avoidant behaviors: Love Avoidant ...
Author: Lauren D. Costine
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Everyone makes mistakes in relationships at one time or another. Sometimes they learn from those mistakes. Other times, they return to those behaviors and cycle through failed relationship after failed relationship. Sometimes those behaviors become an addiction to love that may leave a person feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, lonely, or worse. Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things go Wrong makes visible the elements of love addiction that many lesbians suffer from. Love addiction for lesbians comes in many forms. Some struggle by sexually acting out and others are serial relationship junkies, jumping from one relationship into the next. Some are addicted to the high of falling in love and once that wears off don’t know how to handle the day-to-day realities of a committed relationship. Some are even addicted to fantasy and intrigue, while others are love avoidants and sexual anorexics. Love avoidants may be able to get into a relationship but once they are fully committed, struggle with feeling smothered. Others may avoid intimate or sexual relationships all together, becoming sexually anorexic. Some may even vacillate between all of these. The underlying component and common denominator in all of these scenarios is the “Urge to Merge.” Lesbian Love Addiction is designed to help ameliorate at least part of this problem. Lauren D. Costine offers insight for lesbians, bisexual women in relationships with women, queer women, and more specifically, any woman who loves women, as well as their family and friends, and health care professionals, into the psychology of lesbian love addiction. It will give those who struggle with and suffer from love addiction ways to understand, cope, and heal from this debilitating addiction. It will give those who work with this population new tools to use to do this more effectively. Mostly, it will help lesbians understand their relationship failures and how to heal from problems associated with them, so they may grow and cultivate happier, more fulfilling connections in the future.
Prescriptions for Lasting Love and Deeper Connection Jessica Griffin, Pepper Schwartz ... Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love (New York: Penguin Random ...
Author: Jessica Griffin
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Category: Family & Relationships
Offers a prescription for restoring the struggling relationship back to health. What if couples could take their relationship vitamins or medicine in order to prevent and treat problems in their relationships or restore their struggling relationship back to health? Here, two seasoned relationship experts address the top problems in relationships and provide simple strategies and exercises, grounded in relationship science, that couples can use to have the healthiest – and happiest – relationship of their lives. The reader will benefit from discussions about research on effective communication strategies, adult attachment styles, cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques, and lessons learned from decades of relationship research – all presented in an easy to digest fashion, making Relationship Rx an easy pill to swallow. As Griffin and Schwartz tackle the major issues most couples face (or will inevitably face), they offer a tiered approach to mild, moderate, or severe relationship symptoms – each requiring various levels of intervention . The reader is introduced to three new couples in each chapter – all struggling to some degree in their marriages or long-term relationships. Each chapter concludes with a series of practical relationship exercises or techniques that couples can do in their own homes. Any couple hoping to prevent or address those issues in their relationships that often derail couples will find a relatable resource here and easy-to-implement strategies for restoring even the most challenges relationships.